There really needs to be a reality show about grooms & groomsmen going to their local “Mr. Tux” and shopping for the perfect tux or suit for their big day! You know, a sort-of groom version of “Say Yes To The Dress” complete with interviews, behind the scenes, and of course the suspense leading up to the final fitting … (Record scratch followed by a pause of awkward silence) Ha! I am just kidding, the last thing we need is another REALITY SHOW … but isn’t it strange that the Groom’s perspective on planning for their wedding seem to be “left out” of the mass media that has become such a big part of the wedding industry?
Every groom is different; some want to do what ever it takes to make their bride happy and so they agree to everything because in their mind, it’s “her day.” Then there is the groom who like the previous, wants to make his wife-to-be happy, but also wants to have some input on the food or the music (this was my husband) and ladies trust me, this is a good thing because in truth, your wedding day is about you both as a couple! Then there is the groom who wants to plan, build (aka craft…), and take part in as much of the planning process as their bride, which at the end of the day is awesome because that “to-do” list can be overwhelming!
When it came time to select what my husband and his groomsmen would wear for our wedding, my hubby had a simple request, “I want to be comfortable.” Since we had a casual, backyard wedding, I knew “comfortable” meant we wouldn’t be going to your traditional tux/suit rental shop. So, Jon and I visited our local J. Crew Ludlow Shop in Boston and selected a handsome navy blue gingham dress shirt and a navy blue Italian wool vest and pant suit. Obviously we didn’t want our groomsmen to drop that much money on their attire, so instead of the $230 suit pants and $90 vest, they wore J. Crew navy blue chinos with the same gingham dress shirt as Jon had. At the end of the day, our guys walked away with a really nice shirt and pants that they could KEEP for less than what they would have spent for a rental (this made them really happy!). Oh, and did I mention that they also had custom made, leather brown suspenders??
I think Jon had the right idea – keep it comfortable. So here is how this blog post was born, every groom has a different definition of comfort, and so I’ve collected some images from weddings over the last couple of years that I’ve either photographed as the primary or second shot with my dear bestie, Lexi of Lexi Photography. Hopefully this post will kick start some ideas for your groom and/or groomsmen. Or, at the very least give you a nice distraction from your everyday happenings
Here, classic black suit with a modern twist, the Skinny Tie and Tie Clip. Very modern, super comfortable, and perfect for a romantic/James Bond kind of look. I also love that instead of having the groomsman’s ties match the bridesmaids’ dresses, the groom’s tie does.
Another classic, romantic and more formal look is the two piece black tux for the groom, mixed with a three piece tux for the groomsmen. Add in hand tied bow-ties, suspenders and cuff-links and WOW, super handsome fellas. PS want a little versatility with your groomsmen pictures – have them all wear matching sunglasses …
The 3-peice tux is always a good choice, especially during the winter months!
Top left is a hand-tied bowtie, the other two are pre-tied.
Elegant affairs typically yield black tie suits, here I love the addition of the vest.
Soft colors, such as this champagne tie, also offers an elegant look …
Gray is another popular color for groom and groomsmen suits. Here again we have a nice pop of color, tie clip and cuff-links.
I was so impressed with this group and the groom’s idea to have all the guys wear any variation of a gray suit and brown shoes. Such a considerate groom! Since most of these guys work in an office setting they all already had a gray suit and brown shoes, so all they needed were their ties (and some fun socks, but we will get to that later!)
Classic gray suit with white or cream tie – very handsome and the kind of style that fits both a casual and formal affair!
For summer weddings, ditch the suit jacket and help your men stay handsome and not be super sweaty for their pictures. Here I think the vests help keep things more formal, while allowing the guys to be a lot more comfortable in the heat.
I really loved the look of this groom and his men. The contrast of the gray suits and white ties against the blue dress shirt is both super handsome and something I’ve hadn’t seen before.
You just can’t go wrong with gray and purple, especially in the fall and even more so when it’s a 3-piece suit!
Next up, the blue suit (or as you’ll see further down, blue tuxes!) which can be both formal and casual. Either way, these guys below look great with their pink Vineyard ties, which matched the bridesmaids, and brown boat shoes! A perfect look for a yacht club wedding.
Burberry ties with blue silk lined suit jackets, YES PLEASE!!
Okay, now for a groom who blew. me. away. last year! In all the years I have bee photographing weddings, I have NEVER seen a tux like this – and ladies, these fellas picked out the suits all on their own! He is wearing a midnight blue tux with black trim and a black hand-tied bow tie, rented from Black Tux – a super swanky and highly recommended online tux and suit rental shop.
Lastly, my final tidbit of advice, let your man’s personality shine through! Whether it be with silly pictures, superhero t-shirts and/or cuff links, fun socks or the last pictures case – yes, let them carry around little army figurines … because I guarantee there is an awesome bachelor party back story as to why they are carrying them around. And if you’re lucky, at a random moment, one of them will yell “ATTENTION!” and they all will assume the stance that matches the army guy they hold. I promise – it’s hilarious!